Crush Your Goals - Find Gratitude - SWAG Analysis & Create Your BEST Life
Barbara understands that a full and happy life is led by the heart. Barbara has focused most of her adult life on building a successful career and raising her three children.
Always seeking the "reason," Barbara has traveled the world and dove deep into a career, family, and creating the quintessential perfect life. Still, at what she thought was the pinnacle of a successful life, everything crashed, and her "full and happy life" fell apart. Faced with a divorce after 18 years, a business that fell apart, three children to finish raising, and losing everything, Barbara had hit bottom. Life was redefined, and priorities were rearranged.
After several false starts, Barbara realized that she needed to dig deeper, uproot deep-seated trauma, and rebuild her life from the ground up, and that is what she has done.
It is a new world, and so many people feel discontent in their lives. For some, it is a little whisper nagging at the mundane routine of their ordinary lives. For others, it is an overwhelming need to find a larger understanding to the big purpose of life. As we are faced with the challenges that life presents to us throughout time, we find ourselves pulling further and further away from what we thought we knew. One day, we wake up from our plight, and our jobs, the day-to-day grind, it is just not enough, because we are curious to something more, something we may not yet comprehend, but we know, in our heart, it exists.
I remember standing in my kitchen with a mini blow torch in one hand and a glass of wine in the other. I had just flown the red eye back to Miami from California and arrived to find my home in full swing. It was our Sunday bar-b-que with half a dozen families, the children screaming and laughing in the pool. I think they were playing tag. I could hear the other moms yelling for them to stop running while everyone else crowded around the food table, grabbing at plates and watching the football game. This was the perfect successful life; big house, three kids, great husband, thriving business, and I should be super happy, but instead, I could feel the back of my head starting to expand into a migraine.
I am watching the back of the wife of my husband's very close friend swaying her way through the group, her arm extended up, holding her glass of wine over her head. She had cornered me in the kitchen, handed me a glass of wine, and watched me brown the tops of the mini–baked Alaskas for a couple of minutes before blurting out the question – "How do you do it?"
Without skipping a beat, I started explaining the dessert preparation. She leaned in, laughed, put her hand on my arm, and said, "nooo, how do you do it all?" waving her hand in the air.
I glibly responded... "I just rotated the damage." I don't know where that came from, but at that moment, I was so pleased with my internal script writers ... little did I know that I was about to hit a wall, taking everyone I loved with me.
A year later, I was face down on the wood floors of my bedroom, bawling, my face wet from the puddle of tears and snot. My life had derailed. All I could think of was how I could get my life "back on track." This was the moment I realized that I had no control. At this moment, what I thought was a beautiful life came crashing down. This is when I learned the hardest lessons about ego and letting go of expectations. These next few years forever shifted my definition of a good life.; a long and hard divorce, moving my kids into what I had hoped would be a happier home, and a new business that failed within four years. At the moment, I hadn't realized that the track I was trying to get back on was a repeat of where I had crashed. After losing everything again and hitting a lower bottom, I finally realized I needed a new set of tracks.
Over the next few years, I learned that falling down was the first step to getting back up. Before I could start building a better life, I had to release my personal traumas. I needed to be kinder to myself and inventory my gifts and gratitude for all the good things. Only then could I rediscover my heart and my dreams and let life flow from there.
It has been a long journey of recovery and comeback that ultimately has led my own heart-led and joyful life.
Now, through workshops and private sessions, I help others break away from the grind, uncover their gifts and purpose, and learn how to live an intentional heart-led, and joyful life.
In a perfect world, the simplest path to get from point A to point X would be a straight line, but life has other plans. Through our experiences and with every action we take to "survive," we can move farther and farther away from where we thought our lives would be.
As a Life Strategist, I can help you rediscover your dreams. It is my goal to help you find the best path through the chaos of change. Together, we can find your inner truth and unlock your heart. Think of me as a bridge, a shortcut on your path to understanding what is your heart-led life.
Life is short, let's not waste any more time
As a child, "I am a Rock in the River" was my coping mechanism; it helped me detach and let things pass, especially through my ups and downs. I would sometimes feel like I was on top of a mountain, a stronghold in the wind. Yet, there were other times when I would be completely buried in depression, in utter despair, feeling like I would never experience joy again.
As an adult, I learned to shift that paradigm. Now I am the rock in the river that can redirect water. I can change the course of life by being steady, deliberate, and persistent. Through all of it, I have realized that the little steps, the little daily rhythms, build the foundation to accomplish even the biggest of dreams.
Change doesn't always have to disassemble everything; a gentle tweak here and there can make all the difference in the world. I have adopted a gentle, self-loving practice that I would like to share with you. We are each unique; each day is new; and our path to a heart-led life must reflect that. Allow me to share with you!